Thanks to the #MeToo movement, many women have been opening up about their uncomfortable experiences with powerful men in the entertainment industry. Singer Ashanti recently discussed an encounter she had with a producer, who she did not name, that went left after she refused his sexual advances.
According to MadameNoire, while on SiriusXM’s “Conversations with Maria Menounos,” the 37-year-old said it was obvious that he had a crush on her but when he tried shoot his shot, he took things too far once she turned him down.
“Once I said ‘no,’ all of a sudden the track became $45,000,” she said. “It’s funny because he said something like, ‘Well just take a shower with me and let me do this.’”
The Long Island native said her big brothers came in and handled the situation and made the producer apologize. Her apology also came with some freebies.
“I actually got three records for free! And I got two of them mixed and mastered for free also.”
ANONYMOUS QUESTION OF THE DAY:
Okay, so this n!gga I been talking to kinda scares me. He was so sweet in the beginning, but now he’s weird and “gay-acting” to the point that it makes me wonder if he even likes women.
So, we’ve been seeing each other for about five months and things have been fine between the two of us. We’ve been having $ex for some time now and I really like it, however, he is now asking if we can do anal… A LOT!
I agreed to doing it twice and it wasn’t as bad as I thought it would be, but my feelings have began to change for him now because all he wants to do is stick it in my booty. I don’t know if this is a sign that he is gay or just hella kinky… but, nonetheless, I need your help Triece!
Should I continue to smash? Or should I pass?
I have to admit that this email did make me laugh out loud because I have friends who have been through the same things and they are still in their rut from the ‘Booty Beating Ghosts of Boyfriends Past’.
Though we do have very high numbers of men who now openly sleep with other men, as well as women, we must admire this email and the major question that is poses.
“Backyard Love” can be a tough one because we think that every man who wants to do it must be gay, however, you have to ask yourself this… ‘If he were gay, why wouldn’t he just do that with a man? It’s not like openly gay or bi men are hard to find… right?’
Sis, he may want to do it with you because he doesn’t like men. Have you ever thought about that?
When I think of gay men, we have to remember that these n!ggas are literally coming out of the woodworks with their poopy love stories of sleeping with other men, having relationships with men and so much more…. So, thankfully, there isn’t much of a Gay Secret Society filled with downlow men anymore.
And with that being said, if he says that he’s not gay and that he just enjoys the feels of booty bumping, he might truly be a heterosexual man who just wants some dump hole from the woman that he loves.
If I were you I’d simply even out the playing field and tell him that we can still do a little butt smashing, but I would also like if we could have, what heterosexuals would call, “normal $ex”, about 85% of the time. If he disagrees and chooses not to cooperate then he just might be a gay, however, if he wants the same thing that you want, then this relationship could be a major slay… In a good way.
However, knowing my consensually sexual track record, or lack thereof, I’m wondering what the rest of you ladies think.
Is it a relationship slay? Or relationship gay?
Give our sister some advice on this one and tell us your Broke Back Love Stories in the comment section below 😊 or you can EMAIL US YOUR ANONYMOUS STORY NOW! email@example.com
There are many truths about men that are clearly self-evident: We know they like confident women, love to take charge in anything that they are passionate about, and always consider themselves to be great at giving directions when driving. Then there are those “truths” that I’m convinced women have created in their own minds, however, several experts have FINALLY decided to come forward and admit that what we thought we all knew is just some plain old BS.
1. Myth: Men want to do the chasing.
Truth: This is one that caught me off guard because I have always been raised to believe that if a man wants you he will simply come to you. I’ve also convinced myself that I shouldn’t have to confront my future husband, I’ve always felt that if he wants me he will make the first move.
Boy! Was I wrong?
Call it what you will, but many men today are more attracted to self-assured, educated women who know what they want and simply go after it. According to the Singles in America survey, which was done by Match.com, they polled more than 5,600 men and woman about love and $ex and, surprisingly, 90% of the men were reported as saying that they would be OK with a woman making the first move… So, yes ladies, I guess it is okay to make the first move… Just remember when to sit back and let your man do some of the work…
It’s 2018 so let’s try to step out of our comfort zones so that we can get the man of our dreams.
2. Myth: Men just want to have $ex… No strings attached!
Truth: We must first keep in mind that not all men are the same.
Yes, there are many men who are proud to make it clear that they are only here for a good time and not a long time, however, that doesn’t necessarily mean that they just want your body and that’s it.
According to expert Zhana Vrangolva, Ph.D., “like many other personality traits — for example, extraversion — interest in casual $ex varies widely among both men and women.”
“Some men aren’t interested in it at all. Some are interested in it during certain points in their lives,” however, the important thing that we must all remember is that just because someone is into having casual $ex, that doesn’t mean that he doesn’t take interest in love and relationships… Maybe he just hasn’t found the one yet… Doesn’t mean that you will or won’t be that one though, just be patient and see where things go.
3. Myth: Men don’t have a biological clock.
Truth: “Both sexes form pair bonds, both fall in love, both want to have children — especially before age 40 — and both want to raise them,” explains biological anthropologist Helen Fisher, Ph.D. “Men are just as eager to do so as women.”
It ain’t just you sis… He’s scrambling to beat the clock too.
4. Myth: Big Feet = Big Meat
Truth: I know what you might be thinking, however, I can clarify this one through my own experiences that just because a man has size 15 Timberland boots on, that does not mean that he has a d!ck print that matches his foot print.
“I believe these are all urban legends,” says Stephen Snyder, M.D., a $ex therapist living in NYC.
5. Myth: Men don’t want to commit.
Truth: According to Fisher, the co-author of the Singles in America study, “Men want to introduce a partner to friends and family sooner than women do, they like public affection more, and they want to move in sooner.”
This is all great news to me, however, though it may seem unbelievable, there is a very logical and biological explanation for it. Because women are, as we all know, the carrier of the egg, it’s adaptive for men to fall in love faster and take women off the market before the next guy does.
So why does our society portray men to be commitment-phobes? Some would blame it on the hard-wiring of men allegedly wanting to spread their seed as much as they can, however, it also depends on where he is in his own life.
If a dude’s being flaky, it might mean that he doesn’t want commitment at that particular time or it could be that he just doesn’t want it with you. (The fool!) Though coming that realization can sting, “ultimately, we need to remember that we should never have to convince another person of our value,” says Andrea Syrtash, author of He’s Just Not Your Type (and That’s a Good Thing).
6. Myth: Men can’t fake orgasms.
Truth: You thought we were the only ones capable of pulling a Meg Ryan? Nope. Guys can do it too. (It’s obviously easier to fake it when wearing a condom.) Because of the prevailing myth that men always orgasm, the pressure to perform accordingly can be “pretty intense,” explains Dr. Snyder.
So don’t get too hype when he screams… He could be lying to the both of us… lol
7. Myth: It’s always much easier for a man to orgasm during $ex.
Truth: Not only do men struggle with their happy ending, they also experience delayed ejacul@tion, which we’ll just refer to as DE.
“Some men just have a higher threshold for orgasm,” according to Dr. Snyder. However, while we ladies are blessed with many ways to reach our peak, men can’t always reach theirs (or give themselves a helping hand) while they are inside of us.
Sucks, considering the most sensitive part of their “man part” is near the tip. What many women don’t understand is that DE (and other forms of erectile dysfunction, or ED, which can be caused by antidepressants, stress, and alcohol) can affect young men. A 2013 study found that 26% of men with ED are under the age of 40.
“My office is full of them,” confirmed Dr. Snyder.
8. Myth: Men think about $ex every seven seconds.
Truth: Lies! Thinking about crushing some cakes every seven seconds would mean that a man thinks about doing it 8,000 times a day! This wouldn’t only make men obsessed, but also physically impaired. However, luckily for us, the truth to this story is much more moderate.
Younger men, predictably, think about it a little more. A 2011 study of men ages 18 to 25 recorded almost 19 times a day. Which is still way off from 8,000. (Whew!)
Welp, I must admit that I have a new outlook on life and the way that men are. I thought I knew them, however, these facts have proven that I know nothing about the people that I seem to love so much… MEN!
Comment your thoughts below and tell us what you’re thinking 😊
I haven’t written on this site in some time. I guess you can say I have a real issue with consistency and daily, committed work ethic. That’s been a struggle for me since I’d first began working from home, however, I am officially proud to say that I have learned my lesson and you guys won’t have to worry about anymore long hiatus’ from me… I’m going to stick it out this time!
I’m not sure if my desire to sit back and binge watch “Dear White People” all day is the reason why I haven’t taken full advantage of being an entrepreneur or if it’s simply because the internet kinda scares me a little, but I’m just gonna say it’s a little bit of both… No… Scratch that! I’ll be honest, it’s mainly because I’m secretly terrified of the internet and all of the social media that comes with it.
WHY WAS THE INTERNET BECOMING SO SCARY?
You might have asked yourself that question while attempting to read this quick and random blog post and today I’m gonna answer that question for you.
(DISCLAIMER: Some of this stuff is slightly embarrassing, but know that this is really what happened and it ended up being an amazingly groundbreaking moment for me.)
Sometime last week, while I was showering, I’d looked down at my feet and realized that I could barely see them because my tits were in the way. I was thinking to myself, “Wow, these mothaf*ckas sure have really grown, but why? I’ve been excercising, eating healthier and drinking lots of water… So what’s the reason for this sudden fullness and sag that my boobs seem to have… out of nowhere?”
After I’d gotten over the fact that my titties seemed bigger than my stomach I’d finished washing the rest of my body, including the feet that I couldn’t see, and dried off immediately after getting out of the hot and steamy shower.
Walking from my bathroom to the closet of my bedroom to figure out what I was planning to wear, I looked at myself in my large closet hall mirror and thought to myself, “damn, I look terrible!”
Now, mind you, I have always been a confident woman, even back when I’d weighed almost 200 pounds at the tender age of 25, standing at a height of 5’2”. But, for whatever reason, this time I couldn’t just ignore the fact that my body just didn’t look good to me anymore.
It looked no different than it did just a few months prior, however, I felt like it looked different. I’d noticed my stretch marks on my ass more, the fine hair on my stomach, the cellulite on my legs, the dark skin color under my armpits, the greys on my hairline and even a few hairs on my chin that seemed thicker than they were before.
I didn’t like myself last week and I didn’t know what had changed… Until I sat on my bed, with grown woman tears in my eyes and thought about the fact that all of the things that were there had been there before, but this time I was zooming in on them because I have allowed my self to fall prisoner to the foolery of the internet.
I was criticizing myself on things that other people didn’t even realize that I’d had. I was telling myself stupid sh*t like, “Well, Bernice Burgos is beautiful! I wish I looked flawless like that,” not realizing that a picture is nothing more than a picture and she could have things about her that she notices and hates that no one else would pay attention to if she were right in front of their face.
I’d become a woman who was taking care of my body so that I could look good for my 15K followers on Instagram and my 25K followers on Facebook, and I’d began to lose the desire to want to be Patrice… I was paying more attention to being Naturally Triece, even though I’d thought that the two were essentially the same person… Boy, was I wrong!
Realization that I would compare myself to others way too much was a tough pill to swallow, however, snapping out of it and telling myself that I would never be those people was an even reality to deal with.
I would never be beautiful like Bernice Burgos, soulful like Beyonce, a great dancer like Normani, a fabulous fashionista like Kelly Rowland, a makeup mogul and desirable entertainer like Rihanna, a boss ass business woman and mommy like Yandy Smith, an awesome actress like Jada Pinkett or any of the other women on social media that I’d admired daily. I would never have their bodies or their good looks. I would only have my own looks, my own body, my own business ventures, my own grey hairline and my own huge tits that barely allow me to see my feet in the shower.
I hated that this was true, but while sitting on my bed crying, I had to ask myself why I was so upset about something that was undeniably true. And then it hit me… I would never be those people because I have my own amazing talents, looks and curves that God gave me and that I can’t allow to go to waste just because Kelly Rowland popped up on my timeline slaying for all to see.
God made me into the woman that I am and proudly placed my in my mother’s stomach so that he could present his fine art to the world on December 29th, 1989. (Yes, I’m a Capricorn!)
He gave me two amazing parents, a really cool younger brother, a home of my own, a life of my own and I realized that God would never put me through the misery that I was putting myself through because he’d want me to be just like Bernice Burgos or Beyonce… If he’d wanted me to be those people then that’s what he would have done… I would have just been them and there would be nothing to change.
He gave me life so that I could live in the lap of luxury by simply being myself.
Once this all came to me, I dried my tears cause I ain’t no punk ass b!tch and I got down on my knees at the edge of the bed in my master bedroom. I prayed a prayer that I don’t think I’ve ever prayed before and it went somewhat like this:
Hey! (yes, I say ‘hey’ when talking to God) I know you just saw me crying and you and I both know what’s wrong, so I don’t have to give you the run-down of what just happened.
I just ask you to teach me how to love myself again. Teach me how to overlook everyone else and teach me how to only see myself and love everything that I see about me. Teach me to not pay attention to “likes” or comments. Teach me to admire myself again and never stop. I don’t want to come back to this place again, so take me far away from this mental state that I’m currently in.
In Jesus’ name I pray. Amen.”
And immediately, like lightening, he struck me with an idea. Unfollow every single person that you follow on Instagram and permanently delete your personal Facebook page. So that’s exactly what I did. I knew some people would feel a way and unfollow me back, I knew some people just wouldn’t care and I knew that there may even be a few folks that would just plain out ask, “why did you unfollow me?” As if they’d done something wrong.
But I knew that regardless of any of that, I had to do what I had to do.
Over the past 9 days I have realized that I’m slowly getting back to loving myself again because I don’t have the distraction of the internet. I am learning to love my creases and curves once again and I am also learning to do the things that make me happy, verses trying to do the things that are only trendy.
I left for a while, but I had to get my happy back and I’m excited to say that I think I found her.
Thanks for reading to understand. And if you have been through something similar don’t be afraid to comment and tell me your story.
Be Blessed. Be Bold. Be Bossy!
Patrice “Naturally Triece” Johnson
We were all on the edge of our cyber seats, having a fan meltdown, last night when news broke that singer Jhene Aiko and rapper Big Sean had allegedly broken up because rumors claimed that he’d cheated with Pussycat Doll star, Nicole Scherzinger.
However, we are happy to report that the two musical stars have come out and spoken on the rumors, making it clear that they were just that… RUMORS!
Here is what Aiko had to say about the status of their relationship, according to Hollywood Life:
“Sorry, but nothing about you guy’s fan fiction stories are true,” Jhene Aiko wrote on Twitter March 12. “I still love you tho. The Internet is a wild place. It’s a whole other reality. Bless the Internet. Amen.”
Her tweets only came a time after she and her boyfriend, Sean, made headlines that there was trouble in paradise and fans took notice that she’d unfollowed him on Instagram.
Since then, Sean has retweeted Aiko’s comments and she has decided to follow him on the Gram again.
So, what are your thoughts on this news? Comment below and tell us… Did he smash or pass on Nicole Scherzinger?
We all remember the sultry sounds of R&B, mixed with a little hip hop, back in the 1990’s when Bad Boy Records first came on to the scene.
Though many only reminisce over the malatic sounds of the Notorious BIG, we all danced to the hip hop tracks of rapper Craig Mack as well.
With the memorable rhymes of Craig Mack, as well as his slick approach to the music industry, it was easy to tell that Mack’s music was some of the best that the world had heard during that time. And even today, 20 years later, the nostalgia of his songs still has yet to be forgotten.
We are saddened to inform our readers that the famed rapper and Long Island native has passed away at the age of 46-years-old and though his cause of death still has yet to be determined and released, we are wishing his family all of the best during this tumultuous time.
Check out one of many Bad Boy hits, which starred Mack and comment below sending love, prayers, and distant hugs to his family.
Okay, so here is my story…
Have you ever been forced to deal with one f*ck a$$ n!gga in one night?
Well, I have. So, I had $ex with a dude on my period. He knew that I was on my period, but I guess he has never been with a girl that was on her period because he pulls his d*ck out and completely freaks out on me when he sees the blood.
Then this n!gga had the nerve to ask me if I have an STD. LMAO. Like really bra?
I couldn’t believe that he would ask me something like that, but I was just thinking to myself, “what do you expect if I told you I’m on my damn period?”
So, ladies, I’m curious, have you ever f*cked a dude while you were on your period? If so, what was it like? How did he react when you told him? Did he still want the p*ssy? I need to know… Comment down below and thanks for reading my story!